Seduce: Six Sure-Fire Steps to Become a Love Magnet

by Rinatta Paries

Do you want to attract true love or improve your
relationship so that it turns into true love?
Then you may want to become a love magnet.

You deserve to be loved! I will show you how to
attract true love by looking and growing within yourself.

Although you're seeking love from another person,
you will be more likely to get the love and
attention you deserve by first growing within.

Here are the six steps you need to take to help
you grow in just the right way. The steps will
groom you to attract and engender love.

Want to know exactly how to put each one of these
steps into action? Each of these steps plus six
more are described in detail and laid out for you
in the "How To Stop Being Single" class. To
register or find out more, go to
<http://www.whatittakes.com/classes/single.html>http://www.whatittakes.com/classes/single.html.

1. Figure out your relationship patterns. If you
are not attracting the right partners or not
getting enough love in your relationship, it's
probably not the first time in your life. If
that's the case, then it's likely you have
relationship patterns that are preventing you
from attracting the right partner or preventing
you from behaving in a way that causes love. Get
to know your relationship pattern and your love life will improve.

2. Let go of your past. Most people collect
unpleasantness without realizing it. Every time
something unpleasant happens to you, it goes into
a huge sack of other unpleasantness weighing
heavily on your back. You can't move forward in
life -- and especially in relationships -- with
this baggage. You can't move forward emotionally
any better than if you had a real sack weighing
100 pounds on your back. Even if you don't feel
the weight most of the time, you will feel it in
relationships. It feels like excessive anger,
excessive need to control others, fear, and
anxiety. Want to drop this weight? Learn to let
go of the unpleasantness in your life and in your past.

3. Delve into your needs. Everyone has needs --
that's a part of human nature. In fact, our needs
create relationships. The giver and the receiver
both feel better and more connected when each
other's needs are voiced and met. Yet most of us
are uncomfortable asking others to meet our
needs. At the same time, we enter relationships
to get our needs met. See the paradox? Figure out
your needs, and then figure out which ones need
to be met by your partner and which ones need to
be met by other people. Get them met!

4. Draw your boundaries. Boundaries are there to
protect you and to help you honor your needs and
wants. You know you have boundaries when you can
choose to say yes or no to something, someone, or
a situation. You know you have boundaries when
you can stop a situation that is hurting you. You
know you have boundaries when you know your needs
and ask others to respect them. Having boundaries
makes you discerning, gives you self-respect, and
inspires others to both respect you and treat you
well. This is valuable skill to learn.

5. Know what you want. Know what you want in a
partner and in a relationship. Be careful that
what you want is not a fantasy, unrealistic
standards of perfection, or a set of low
expectations. Look at the relationships you value
most and model your love relationship after
those. Keep out people who are not a match,
invite in those who are. Stop doing behaviors
that sabotage what you want in your relationship
and instead take action to create what you want.

6. Get connected. Build a community. Get people
into your life to meet your needs, to support
you, to nourish you. Many people want to simply
find "the one" or hope they have found "the one,"
and then proceed to isolate themselves. What a
stress on a relationship! Can you put all of your
needs, wants, desires, and interests on one
person? Do you think all of your needs will
somehow be met by your Prince or Princess
Charming? We all need community. We have too many
needs for one person to meet them all. Get connected, and stay connected.

For detailed explanation on how to accomplish
each of these steps plus 6 more, register for the
"How to Stop Being Single" class. For more
information and to register, go to
<http://www.whatittakes.com/classes/single.html>http://www.whatittakes.com/classes/single.html.

© Rinatta Paries